Talk Back with Ellen Wood

The beauty secret that could change the world

What makes a person radiant?

What can you do in an instant to make yourself glow?

It’s so simple: Love yourself exactly the way you are. Love everything about yourself – including the parts of your personality you might wish were different. They could be hiding your greatest strengths.

Love your body exactly as it is. When you give your body love and appreciation – and let go of the critical self-talk we humans are so prone to – you

• release stress,
• feel happier and more comfortable in your body,
• carry an energetic vibration of appreciation and acceptance
• and become better looking.

How you picture yourself and your appearance influences how others see you. Think about it. Part of how you perceive a person’s appearance has to do with your sense of the energy they carry and the emotions they are feeling. In his book Social Intelligence, Daniel Goleman writes about the latest findings in biology and brain science. He tells us about research that shows how connected we are, brain to brain, with those around us, and how those interactions can have actual physical consequences. We can “catch” another person’s emotions, just like a cold or love fever. And those emotional reactions have a biological influence by launching surges of hormones that can harm or improve our bodies.

You know the way you can sense something about a person you’re meeting for the first time? You may feel very good around that person and feel drawn to him or her – or you may just want to keep your distance. You’re responding to their energetic vibration.

The energetic vibration you carry affects your appearance, and your thoughts create your energetic vibration. When you love yourself exactly as you are, you vibrate with a lovable, beautiful energy and others can “catch” your love emotion. Just imagine what our world would be like if we all did that!

The latest bioscience tells us that there is an “intelligence” in each cell in our body – that communication occurs between these cells. The brain responds to positive emotions with higher levels of endorphins and we feel happier and less stressed.

Why is this so important to your health and looks? Because stress is the underlying cause of most disease and illness and is the number one aging factor. Stress raises levels of the adrenal hormone cortisol, which is useful if there’s a crocodile nipping at your toes: it gives your body that boost in energy sometimes necessary for survival. However, when it’s triggered not by a calamity that requires extra energy, but by mental anguish, the cortisol stays in your system. This stress-induced cortisol increases internal generation of free radicals, disrupts normal metabolism and leads to all kinds of undesirable physical results.

So love your body – just the way it is. Really love it! Feel the emotion of love. If it helps, close your eyes and search your memory for a time when you had a strong feeling of love. You just want to feel the emotion – then you can drop the memory.

Frequently tell yourself how wonderful you are and how grateful you are to be you while feeling a joyful, loving emotion. Stop whatever you’re doing, take a few deep breaths and really experience the love in your silent or spoken words. Do it especially when it’s important to make a good impression, even though you’re feeling butterflies in your belly. For example, right before:

• you meet with a prospective client
• an audition
• a date with your new lover
• meeting your partner’s children – or parents
• your first day on the job

The bottom line is – the stress you create with negative thoughts about your body causes aging, illness and even disease. So let go of the stress, love your body and shine with radiance – because the crazy, divine truth is, you are perfect just the way you are!

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